買楼跟结婚的闗系

我一直不太明白爲甚麽一定要有楼才能结婚。在我看来，结婚代表成家，能够拥有自己的一层楼作為家當然好，因為會比较稳定且有经济基础。但是有一层楼不等于就可以结婚成家了。怎麽现在把這因果關系都掉乱了。是不是如果你有一层楼就可以随時结婚了呢？

看样子很多人為了一层楼吵得火热，有可能是两家人，也有可能是里两個人。但買不起楼也可以租啊，有瓦遮頭，方便生活就好。為甚麽一定要拥有？难道没有楼就不可以生活開心？到最後你也带不走。如果一定要拥有就用自己的能力赚一层回来，别人能做到的你也應该能做到，埋怨别人和社會或政府並不能帮到你甚麽。作為男人應该有志气，相信且用自己的能力去争取自己想要的。作為女人不等于可以不事生产，不劳而获，等人养。那人又没有楼跟喜不喜欢他真的有關系嗎？如果有，问一下自己，你要一层楼還是要一個丈夫。

不是我天真或看不出现實的残酷，我明白世上没有免费午餐。如果你想要一样东西，你就要付出努力。可能有些人需要付出的比你少，但你是你，别人是别人，可能别人在其他地方付出比你多而你不知道，没有理由去心理不平衡。可能眼前的努力看起来没有收获，但终有一天今天種下的種子會有收成，且在你意想不到的情况下。

你算不算成熟

一、行事有主见，有原则；不以学习人的喜恶作为自己行事的标准。 二、承认人性中有光明的一面和黑暗的一面，并有容忍谅解的胸襟。 三、能够接受对方—--包括一切优点和缺点。 四、充分明白“人必先自爱而后人再爱之”，“人必先自助而后人必助之”的道理。 五、明白到良好的动机未必会带来良好的结果，了解到手段与目的之不可分割。 六、不“以人废言”，懂得“以事论事”而不“以人论事”的道理。 七、不会坠入“非浅则彼”“非黑则白”的两种极端思想的陷井，明白到世事在两极端之间有一系列的中间状态。 八、明白到“人比人，气死人”的道理，不会把自己跟别人滥加比较。 九、了解人与人之间的沟通乃是最困难也是最有意义的事，而封闭自傲的人的心灵正是这一沟通的最大敌人 十、明白到世间万物，包括自己的思想和信念都在变动前进，并且有“以今日之我，战胜昨日之我”的勇气。

懂得怕才會努力

有压力才會進步，有警惕才會更努力。
人不能活的太轻松，舒服。人有惰性，太自在就不會再努力前進了。不是说知足常樂不好，但人不进则退。找到平衡點很重要。

總會有結局

沒有人可以逃過最終的結局，結局也不一定是圓滿的。但人生無論長短，重要的是無憾。我不知道活過一個世紀的人會有什麼想法，但我衷心希望他們覺得幸福。


終于明白不流淚不等於不悲傷，表面監強不代表內心不脆弱。看起來完好無缺的人大有可能已經傷痕累累。我從前不知到內斂，也不明白為何人會想一套，說一套，做一套。現在我懂了，因為你要做別人想看到的那一套，你的想法其實不重要，留給自己就好了。

Another quote

To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.

This first time I heard life is all suffering, I was going in the last year of high school. The teacher commented on it when we were studying Hamlet. I didn't understand how life is all about pain and suffering back then. After all these years, I do. 

When you first realize how painful life is, you may be frustrated, disappointed and may want to give up life. Usually, people get over it and move on. They taste the sweetness while suffering in life. Some people couldn't get over it and never bother to try to live better.

If you happen to find the meaning of your life, you will survive better in this world. I am looking for some miracle in my life. Even thought there is no miracles, I still keep my hope for life. I believe it would my suffering more meaningful.

To try to be better is to be better

"To try to be better is to be better."

This is quote of today. When you are still in school, you have all different kind of ambitions. After you come to the real world, how many of them you remember and actually to to achieve it. All those ambitions become fantacies and dreams, instead we struggle with daily living expense everday.

Leaving school, having a job, managers/bosses telling you all the mistakes you made, all the improvements you need. You get frustrated, upset... ends up you just think you are not good enough for what you want and you will never be able to get there.

Maybe you are getting better everyday, evey month, every year. If you don't give up, if you work extra hard, if you try to be better than others... maybe you will get there. I think it is better to try than give up before trying hard enough. Even you don't get to that big goal you had, at least you would be better off than others that didn't try.

I remember someone told me this. He told me when I was struggling in job hunting.
Not everyone can take the most straigh forward way. It is ok make different turns on your way, you may even learn more in those extra roads you take. As long as you remain focus to the final goal destination, after all the d-tours, you will get there eventually.

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving weekend just past, and I am very enjoy with my four work days week. I am not a tranditional Canadian, I don't really have family reunion and turkey on my dinner table. However I really like the long weekend because of it.

Thanksgiving is during the fall time, same as this year. My family tradition is to see maple leaves. I pretty much go see maple leaves with family every year around this time. I never feel anything special about it, it comes normal to me. This year, I feel something different. You may not like this kind of boring family trips when you usually have it, but you will feel weird when you don't do it. I am glad I still have a chance to do it, when it is not too late to realize the good.

劇集的聯想

三色台又抄了。不是否認就可以當沒有發生，雖然有不同，但他們還是抄了。把英文翻議成中文，改了些情節，多了幾條感情線，不等於不是抄。抄是可以的，重要是要抄的漂亮，青出於藍而勝於藍才是成功。

新劇讀心神探裡，有些話觸動了我。
我記憶力不好，所以讀書也不太好。但是有一句話是對的，凡是觸動到感情的事物，就永遠不會忘記。記憶力再差，卻不會影響這部分的記憶。一件事，只要動了感情就再也忘不了了。所以說，如果你很用心去作一件事，那件事的所有細節你都應該記得。

還有還有，我真想學學記憶法。

90 days count down

Today is 90 days to my CKE exam in January.

People who did their CA exams before talked about all different kinds of methods and recommendation to help you go through the exam. Hopefully, I would be able to talk about it too. (That means I pass it. =P)
The method I am using right now is keeping a routine. I study an hour from Monday to Thursday in the morning before work, hopefully I absorb more in the morning than the tiring time after work. My goal is to catch up (at least 80%) with all readings and exercise I do in prep program every Sunday. Starting in December, I will take three weeks before my exam to do practice MC questions.


Study tasks to be completed

• read competency map
• carefully reading CICA handbook (accounting and assurance)
• detail studying prep course material
• full understand all MC in prep course material
• review university notes in auditing, tax, accounting and finance
• complete practice MC booklet provided by ICAO
• complete practice MC booklet provided by DCS

now.. I really hope I will be finished all of above in 90 days...

Boring class

It is a surprise my network can finally blog.

I am currently in a CKE prep course right now, topic is governence, strategiy, risk management and IT. This is one of the more boring class I have. She is not organized, contents are all over the place. It is difficult to follow what she is talking about. Also, her tone and voice is very low. Even I recorded her lecture, still hardly can hear it. The worse part is, I am not absorbing anything she is talking about.

This is a bad class and I fell like I am wasting money.The bottom line is, a good lecturer is very important to students.
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